Friends that we have known our entire married life brought dinner tonight (we are blessed to have great people helping us out since the cancer diagnosis). As we were in the kitchen getting things together to eat, one of them told me “It wasn’t what we planned.”
I laughed and replied, “Well, there isn’t much going on in my life right now that I planned.”
Our friends like to cook on the grill. Steaks, brisket, sausage, pretty much anything. They were going to barbecue a brisket and come over to watch football. The rain (we live in Texas) today put a kink in that plan. So instead, they got some pre-cooked brisket and sausage from the store.
It was still an awesome dinner. Just not what they had planned. We enjoyed the food and the company.
If you haven’t realized by now that life does not always turn out as planned, then I would love to meet you and know your secret.
If I had been asked in high school to describe my life in 2015, I’m am certain it would not look anything like what my life looks like now.
In 1984, I was graduating from High School and heading off to college. I had no idea what I was majoring in. I had no idea where life would lead. I’m sure I thought that I would be married (ok, got that one right) and that I would have kids (got that one, too).
But the path that has lead me to where I am now is nothing like I would have drawn out, for example:
- I graduated from college and moved to Washington, D.C. I worked in public accounting for a year and thought I really wanted to live in “the big city.” A year passed and I was ready to move back to Texas. I worked in Dallas for several years until I got married (see below). I was a city girl. Fast forward to 2015, I live in a town with a population of 800 and while I miss the ability to run to the store, I do not miss the hustle and bustle of people crowding me where ever I am.
- I married a football coach. I expected to be married to a football coach for years to come. But life changed and my husband changed careers. He has been involved with grass-fed beef at the family farm and is an consultant for farmers that want to go organic. As a kid I never even went to a farm except for one time when I rode with my grandfather in his milk truck (he picked up milk from dairies, it was quite an experience). Farming was not in my long range plans.
- In 2003, I was first diagnosed with cancer (certainly wasn’t part of the plan – you can read more about that here). That changed my plans again. I worked for a school district and was doing well. With two young daughters, we made the jump to pursuing the dream of our own business in the organic consulting field.
So life has once again thrown us a curve ball and we are adjusting to what this new life looks like. It was not in our plans. But, just like our dinner tonight, we make adjustments when life isn’t what we planned.